After binge eating for so long, a gal will get to a point where the physical, mental and emotional toll is just too much. She'll start to think that there has to be another way—and that way cannot be another diet offering false hope to lose the weight once and for all, quickly and easily. She finally begins to understand that it is diets that keep her stuck, perpetually in the "Dieter's Dilemma" cycle of dieting, overeating and then regaining all the lost weight.
Insert the ANTI-DIET MENTALITY.
If dieting has become your way of life, the idea of NOT dieting can be REALLY scary. It's normal to feel fearful about letting go of the control you've had over food for so long. I mean, it has been the only tool you have known to lose weight (albeit temporarily).
Hitting diet rock bottom is a hard reality—damned if you diet and damned if you don't. [Can ya'll feel me here?!]
Most gals in this position feel stuck between two main conflicting fears:
OTHER COMMON FEARS ARE:
FEAR 1: IF I STOP DIETING, I WON'T STOP EATING.
REALITY: DIETING IS OFTEN THE TRIGGER FOR OVEREATING.
News flash: of course it's going to be a little difficult at first to stop eating when you've been under-eating and restricting food. It's a normal, biological response to starvation. Once your body trusts that you won't withhold nourishment anymore (through dieting), the intense drive to eat will dissipate.
FEAR 2: I don't know how to eat when i'm not dieting
REALITY: when you banish diets and adopt mindful eating, your body will naturally rely on inner signals, which will guide your eating.
It's like learning to ride a bike for the first time. The possibility of falling off can be terrifying to the novice rider. Similarly, being surrounded by food can be terrifying to the chronic dieter, who is learning how to eat again.
But, you won't learn to ride the bike if you rely on the training wheels or even worse, just stand looking at the bike (even while believing that learning how to ride will be a BLESSING/a good thing). First you being by getting your feet wet and learning how to balance on a bike. Eventually you will pick your feet up when you're ready—and get more comfortable.
You will have falls, but with each fall, you'll gain a little more strength and trust in yourself. You might not trust yourself with food now, but YOU WILL.
FEAR 3: i will be out of control.
reality: control is based in fear—fear that you will relapse and binge eat. when your body gets used to mindful eating which relies on inner hunger cues, you'll start to trust your inner wisdom.
Nobody can be the expert of "you." Only you know your thoughts, feelings and experiences. You'll learn to feel, listen and honor your inner signals (both physical and emotional), all while feeling empowered as fuck. Little by little, you'll regain your power. But you have to take the first step and be willing to lose control here and there along the way.
have you had any of these fears?
You're not alone.
And, contrary to what you're thinking right now, there's nothing wrong with you. These inclinations aren't based on your lack of will power or motivation to change, but are deep seeded in biological and psychological pulls.
Are you ready to break through these fears?
Let's have a chat. Sometimes opening up and getting reassurance from a mentor—someone who is certified in eating psychology AND who has also been through these depths herself—can be just want you need to finally push through the fears.
Much love to you all,
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