1️Your environment shapes your eating behaviors
The atmosphere and people you surround yourself every day do in fact heavily influence you.
If you live in a household where food is used as a stress reliever, you will likely struggle with emotional eating.
If your mom, grandma or other family member constantly counted calories or macros (fat, protein, carbs), you'll think dieting is the norm and make it your way of life.
If people around you look at food as “good” or “bad,” you will have similar thoughts.
If your friends are always in a challenge, trying a new "way of eating" [cough cough "diet"] or constantly talking about weight & appearance, you inevitably will to.
Your habits and thoughts tend to be a direct result of who you're surrounding yourself with.
2️ The longer you neglect a negative relationship with food, the longer it persists.
Suppressing an issue or neglecting a situation because it's hard, uncomfortable or fearful, never makes it better. It only drags out the process of dealing with it. Am I right?!
Sooner or later, if you want to live a life that's not driven by what you eat [aka, living in hell], you'll need to face your reality with food.
Food will always be fuel to LIVE. You HAVE to make PEACE with it.
Why not start today?
3️ Food is NOT the issue. It's the deeper void that you're trying to fill with FOOD that's the issue.
So many people use dieting as a way to cope with life.
Think of the times in which you started a diet. How often did it coincide with difficult times or transitions in your life?
When women feel overwhelmed, fearful, or out of control in their lives, they often turn their focus to food and weight loss—two aspects they CAN control. .
INSTEAD, look beyond food + evaluate your mindset, environment, past trauma, limiting beliefs—anything that’s not in alignment w/ your true self … the REAL ROOT CAUSE(S) of your food issues.
4️ DIETING & the ALL OR NOTHING mentality keeps you IMPRISONED BY FOOD, only perpetuating the DIET-BINGE CYCLE.
When you diet, your brain senses the restriction as a threat to its food supply. This “survival mode” signals the body to EAT SOME DANG FOOD.
On top of that, the judgement, #anxiety + control that you have over food is interpreted by your body as a form of STRESS. Under these conditions, your body will metabolize your food completely different, often storing it as fat versus processing it for fuel. 🔥
Instead of overly fixating on food, try practicing mindful eating ...
It's all about moderation and tuning into your internal hunger cues ...
It's a practice and it will take time to trust yourself with food again ...
but it sure as heck will get you a lot further in the long-term than the next fad diet.
5️ The food that we eat or don't eat do not define us as "good" or "bad" people.
No matter if you’re eating superfoods or enjoying wine & pizza with girlfriends (all a/b balance, boos), SHAME + JUDGEMENT of these FOOD DECISIONS do NOT deserve your time or energy.
Weight should never control you or define you.
6. When you DIET, you're making food decisions from a PLACE OF FEAR.
Body change rooted in fear and self-rejection DOES NOT LAST.
Instead of fearing not losing the weight or overeating, try viewing food as nourishment for your beautiful spirit.
This shift naturally dissolves your binge-worthy cravings & creates #mindfuleating patterns that lead to lasting transformation.🌱
From this place, you'll actually be able to eat a cookie and not destroy the whole bag. Wouldn't that be nice, right?!
An obsession with food--controlling macronutrients (carbs, protein, fats), strict calorie counting, food journaling and restricting "bad" foods—more often than not means your body isn't getting the necessary fuel it needs to function at its best.
When you're constantly depriving your body of nutrients, it eventually goes into "survival" mode [or starvation mode] and will fight you every step of the way. When this happens, your body will send you VERY CLEAR and sometimes debilitating signals until you feed it what it needs.
If you've been in this dieting cycle for long, you may be experiencing these signals hard core. To help you identify them, check out the list below.
It’s OKAY to want to change your body if you don’t feel it’s currently in alignment with who you really are.
We all have visions for ourselves and no one should feel shame in wanting to better themselves.
THE KEY IS to LOVE your body INTO CHANGE, not HATE it into SUBMISSION.
Try these TINY nutrition + workout tweaks that NOURISH instead of DEPRIVE your body—allowing it the loving space to transition into a new version [if that’s your goal]. 👊🏼
After binge eating for so long, a gal will get to a point where the physical, mental and emotional toll is just too much. She'll start to think that there has to be another way—and that way cannot be another diet offering false hope to lose the weight once and for all, quickly and easily. She finally begins to understand that it is diets that keep her stuck, perpetually in the "Dieter's Dilemma" cycle of dieting, overeating and then regaining all the lost weight.
Insert the ANTI-DIET MENTALITY.
If dieting has become your way of life, the idea of NOT dieting can be REALLY scary. It's normal to feel fearful about letting go of the control you've had over food for so long. I mean, it has been the only tool you have known to lose weight (albeit temporarily).
Hitting diet rock bottom is a hard reality—damned if you diet and damned if you don't. [Can ya'll feel me here?!]
Most gals in this position feel stuck between two main conflicting fears:
OTHER COMMON FEARS ARE:
If you don't know, yo girl's guilty pleasure is french fries, all day long, errrrrrydayyyyy. But, obvi, if I ate them that often, you'd have to roll my round potato ass everywhere. So instead, I create just-as-yummy substitutes that still satisfy my palate while keeping the food guilt at bay.
If you're on the journey to healing your relationship with food, it's so, so important not to feel deprived. Controlling and restricting food (especially carbs and other foods that were once "off limits") are behaviors that keep you stuck in the cycle of emotional and binge eating. The key to overcoming the fight against food is to allow your body to consume what you're craving. I know: this can be SCARY AS HELL for those of you just starting this process (a full blog is to come on how to do this properly & fearlessly). But for now, I suggest finding new alternatives to your "off limit" foods (you know the delicious, calorie-dense, greasy ones that you hid in the closet and binged night after night) that will trick your mind into thinking you're actually having them.
Insert 👉🏽 my bomb.com sweet potato recipe I came up with myself. The next time you're craving binge-worthy carbs, this snack will do the trick.
Do you wake up happy? Like, really fucking happy? We all should. But we don't. [If you do, props to you, boo]
The reality is, your fearful thoughts, stressful circumstances and lingering to-do lists are paralyzing you before you even hit the "snooze" button.
I feel you, girl. That was me, everyday, for way too fucking long.
This pattern doesn't have to own you though. A morning routine can give you the structure needed to set you in motion, give meaningful milestones to your day, organize your racing thoughts, prevent unnecessary stress and overwhelm and make you feel overall more productive. Having a morning ritual sets a healthy rhythm to your daily life and quite frankly will be the one thing to keep you fucking sane!
[sorry not sorry for all the F bombs in this blog 😜]
After establishing a healthy routine, I love mornings. Wait. Scratch that. I'm OBSESSED with mornings.
Something about a new day makes me giddy + wanna jump out of bed with joy. But, keep me up past 9 pm & I’m a complete cranky pants. #TotalGrandma. 👵🏻
In case you're curious about my morning routine, here is it. When crafting yours, make sure your new healthy patterns address and support your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs. Each cup needs daily nourishment to stay full and balanced.
PS: Mornings = "Carrie Time." I used to wake up and "hustle" right away, and it made me anxious + miserable. Now, I focus on self care first and then ease into the hustle, planning my work schedule around my energy + what FEELS best for that day.
Here's what usually goes down 👇🏻
I know first-hand that the holidays can be a huge source of anxiety for those struggling with their relationship with food. We often think that if we allow ourselves one indulgence, we might as well say "fuck it" and eat the whole damn kitchen.
WHO ELSE HAS DONE THIS, LIKE EVERY HOLIDAY? 🙋🏼
But babes ... I'm here to tell you that it doesn't have to be all-or-nothing.
The goal this season is BALANCE not DEPRIVATION. MAINTENANCE not PERFECTION.
These tips will help you stay mentally and physically strong, while allowing you to enjoy all the treats, too.
You got this 😘
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I've suffered from Generalized Anxiety Disorder for as long as I remember, which stems from my perfectionist roots. On the surface, it looks like we have it all together, but deep down lies a fear of not being good enough—in our bodies, relationships, careers and every other facet of life. This constant self-judgement, shame and pursuit to be "perfect" often leads to heightened stress, control, exhaustion, psychological pain and destructive behaviors (eating disorders in my case).
Between personal development, western medicine, nutritional healing and holistic supplementation, I am now at peace with my anxiety (PRAISE THE LORD). And you can be, too.
Before I dive in and tell you two secrets that have helped alleviate a lot of my symptoms, I want to be very clear about something:
If you suffer from ANXIETY or DEPRESSION (they often go hand-in-hand), I want you to know that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. Anxiety and depression are signals from your body, mind and/or spirit that tell you something in your life is out of alignment and recalibration is in order. When you start to explore the triggers, voids or mismatches in your environment or lifestyle, while also taking small daily measures to manage the symptoms in the process, you'll start to alleviate the detrimental impact these experiences can have on your life.
Now, let's talk about the two new miracle-workers I've added to my daily routine! Although there are MANY reasons to take these two supplements, I personally chose them for their well-known ability to help with:
OK, so what are they?
These days, if we're miserable with our current circumstances, gurus tell us to "find our passion" and we'll never work a day in our lives. So, we set out to discover what that is. We list out our talents, discuss the pros and cons of each opportunity, waste money on classes and certifications and compare ourselves to others on social media wondering how in the heck they live with such purpose and ease.
It's exhausting and can make us feel downright worthless—like we have nothing to offer the world and will forever be lost and unhappy.
Let me tell you, I've been actively searching for YEARS and had gotten to the state above more than I can count on one hand. I'm sure you have to some degree, too.
BUT. What if I told you we've been going at it ALL WRONG.
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