Hey babes! Welcome to the blog.
Yesterday I went LIVE on IG (click the pic above to watch!) to talk about how I walked away from $24k just 2 weeks ago... only 2 months after leaving my 9-5 job.
I know what you're thinking... why in the heck did I do that!?
Believe me, I questioned my sanity too.
It the day before I was to launch my *signature course* that was fully created & market tested, 12 women were signed up on the waitlist & ready to swipe their credit cards & another 2 females we're inquiring about 1:1 business coaching services...
And I decided to SCRAP IT ALL.
Because it wasn't in alignment with me anymore.
I felt draining to create.
I didn't even believe in what I was teaching anymore.
I was having to force myself to get out of bed & show up.
There was no joy, passion or excitement in the project.
Taking action was forced, not inspired.
I tell this to my clients all the time, but ALIGNMENT IS THE #1 MOST IMPORTANT THING WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR BUSINESS.
Not just because it's almost IMPOSSIBLE to build a business when you don't believe in it...
But because building from a place of mis-alignment will dysregulate your nervous system, meaning you're automatically operating from survival mode & your brain and body no longer feel safe to push on and receive more. From this space, you unconsciously self sabatage any effort to succeed and succumb to symptoms that include but aren't limited to low energy, anxiety, depression, low mood, insomnia, pain and muscle aches, blurred vision, focus & concentration issues and the list goes on making overwhelm and burnout the default in this state.
But when you are living from your truth and align your business with your soul, you will naturally feel energized, your nervous system heals, emotional and energetic blocks vanish, clarity and confidence are a constant, work and attracting clients is easy, and the list goes on.
Sounds dreamy right?
Well, I would've never had that if I kept forcing my business. I would have forever been struggling to show up, sell, serve & succeed.
And I chose this entrepreneur life for happiness & freedom... that was going to be a mental, physical, emotional & spiritual prison.
Nah, girl. No thank you, boo boo. I don't care what the short-term fall out is (money, discomfort, etc.).
SO WHAT ARE THE EXACT STEPS I TOOK TO BURN THIS BUSINESS DOWN & BUILD IT BACK UP?
1. GUT CHECK. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. Your intuition never steers you wrong. You are feeling the weight for a reason... lean in to what it's trying to tell you & where it's trying to lead you. To help with this process, pick a quiet spot and journal freely. What's bubbling up for you?
2. CHECK-IN WITH YOUR BODY & ENERGY: Ensure this "off" feeling is not just your nervous system out of whack. Sometimes when we don't take care of ourselves, our mood, focus & energy dip, which can make it hard to show up. However, a lot of the times the resistance (mental/physical/emotional discomfort) we feel in our bodies is actually smoke signals that we are moving in the wrong direction. Try to decipher between the two before making any rash decisions. Our bodies are so smart and always communicating to us - whether positive or negative.
3. GET CLEAR. What LIGHTS YOU THE F UP? What can you create & sell based on that? How can you deliver it to the world in a way that feels good to you (not how everyone else says you should)?
4. RE-ALIGN. Your mind & body are on board with your new found truth (they've been trying to convince you of this pivot for months). Now it's time to connect your soul to your business.
5. SUBTRACT. Take audit of what in your biz was maybe aligned with your previous self, but isn't anymore (any team member, client, freebie, offer, platform, funnel, etc.). CTRL, ALT, DELETE ANYTHING that does not align... even if that takes ya back to ZERO (hello, me :D). This is the fun but scary part, and don't just keep something around because it's "working." It will become dead weight sooner or later. Eliminate it.
6. BUILD NEW. Congrats - you have a clean slate to create what actually brings you alive. Watch how fast the results poor in now that you get to wake up and teach a topic that LIGHTS YOUR SOUL UP. What a gift you have given to yourself, and the people you will soon serve.
So there you have it! If you're feeling the same heaviness in your business, I suggest you use the steps above and explore why. It's not worth having a business if it's one that you aren't 150% IN LOVE WITH.
Watch my live if you want more deets and an INSIDE PEEK on my new program!
If you have questions leave a comment or DM me on IG!
Much love girlfriend. Thanks for reading!
Hey babes! GUESS WHAT?!
Boss Up with Confidence Co. is officially LIVE!
The last couple months I poured my heart into designing this merchandise (yes, I created each design from scratch in Canva, curated each product with intention & tested the material to make sure it was worthy of you). Honestly, it took 10X longer to launch this thing because my inner perfectionist got the best of me (can anyone relate?) 🙄
But it is here and I’m stinkin’ excited.
This shop is a hub of empowering apparel, accessories and home/office décor that I hope will remind you on the daily of how beautiful, capable & badass you really are.
Check out a SNEAK PEEK below and be sure to click through to SHOP!
As always, I am so grateful to you for supporting me. I hope you enjoy love!💕
PS: Please leave any and all feedback in the comments below, as well if you’d like to see another product with a certain quote! I will be releasing new product in the shop weekly and would be glad to apply any recommendations you have 😉
*Each inspirational bar necklace above comes with 4 different coating options: 24k gold, 18k rose gold, black rhodium and white rhodium.*
You’re NOT lost, you’re… (swipe➡️)
This is REFRAMING, ya’ll! It’s such a freaking BASIC concept but is a powerful neuro linguistic programming (#NLP) technique to reprogram your belief system…
A BELIEF is just A THOUGHT that we THINK REGULARLY right?
So how TRANSFORMATIVE would it be to just shift the narrative slightly… from:
“I’m lost & never going to amount to anything”
“I’m not lost, I’m just going through the muck so I can learn the lessons & tools I need to then teach other warriors how to get through the muck too?”
Seriously…the 2nd statement will LITERALLY SHIFT THE ENERGY in your body.
It’s crazy right…it’s the SAME exact theme (being lost), just with a slightly different perspective.
The difference is, the second serves your highest self and is actually helping you start to re-wire your subconscious to think & act like that cute future badass self you want to be 🤩💁🏼♀️
The REFRAME (if repeated consistently) will become the NEW BELEIF SYSTEM (aka your new normal) that will help you to get to who and where you want to be that much FASTER (without extra effort, force or struggle).
There’s lots of NERDY SCIENCE behind it🤓, but I’ll spare you ;)
HERE’S HOW TO ACTUALLY DO A REFRAME THAT WILL STICK:
1. Journal initial false thought that has run your life for too long.
2. Give yourself GRACE & forgive yourself for thinking that thought. (CRUCIAL PART OF THE PROCESS)
3. Journal a new upgraded thought that serves your higher self. Say it out loud.
4. Do it DAILY. Your upgraded thoughts will start to shift the emotion you feel in the body that will drive new behaviors that are in alignment with your highest self (we often act on the emotion)…and soon enough you’ll see different results/new external world around you.
Boom. It’s literally likkkeee 2nd grade simple … no excuses ladies!
PS: you get alllll the mind/body #neuroscience tools in MODULE 1 & 2 of my PURPOSE. POWER. PROFIT Program ... click the button below to learn more & get notified when DOORS OPEN! Program starts in early October :)
How the brain determines how we show up in the world and thus what we create/attract in our life (results, opportunities, people).
It is all a mirror of your mind.
Confidence IS a MINDSET.
If you’re feeling less than confident, you’re operating on old unconscious systems shaped by childhood, trauma, pain, experiences, that reinforce the idea that you’re not good enough (bananas 🍌).
Thoughts ➡️ emotions ➡️ behaviors ➡️ results. A thought creates a feeling in the body that directs the action you take, producing a result. So, our thoughts literally create our reality.
Now, let's BREAK THIS DOWN so you fully understand what the heck is going on...
So, thoughts create emotions, right?! And emotions have energy attached to them. Energy attracts likeness. So you attract what you are!
So a limiting thought creates a low frequency emotion that keeps you in survival mode. In this state, you’ll be a magnet for other low vibe situations and experiences.
On the contrary, when you reprogram your subconscious mind with thoughts that serve your future self (“I am worthy of success & abundance”), you create higher energy emotions that are in alignment with what we want.
At this state, you are in the energy in which the Universe responds to.
You are flowing, not pushing.
Attracting, not hustling.
Serving, not chasing accolades.
I’m sure you’ve experienced it before, but this is the state in which opportunities, people, money, a loving message, anything you need in that moment or something you’ve been trying to manifest just magically appears out of nowhere!
So ask yourself...
The beauty of this is that it's in OUR CONTROL. We control our thoughts so we control the outcome. If you're choosing a victim mentality that's keeping you stuck and limiting your results ... that is YOUR CHOICE.
You have the power, at any given moment, to change the trajectory of your business and life.
Please, please, please choose thoughts that serve YOUR HIGHEST, BEST SELF. Because that self is so so so IN REACH. Never freaking forget that, babes.
Insert eye roll when coaches tell you to “recite daily affirmations.”
I mean, really... how the heck does saying “I AM A MILLIONAIRE,” going to make me a millionaire? 🧐
Sounds crazy, right? And believe me, this was me for SO MANY YEARS.
But y’all... there’s actually NEUROSCIENCE behind it.
Hear me out...
So many women, maybe even you…
Have an itch deep down, this burning desire to find a higher purpose…
Maybe you’re in a soul sucking job. Maybe you’re a full-time mom ready to discover a new identity. Maybe you’ve had a big wake up call recently (ME) and decide you’re going to leave a different legacy now…
First of all, congrats girl for wanting more & recognizing that you deserve all of it.
This realization though can be both EXCITING and OVERWHELMING.
When you’re contemplating any change, the overwhelm can create stress and anxiety which can quickly turn into INACTION & PROCRASTINATION before you EVEN GET STARTED!
Sound familiar? Ha. (wayyyy tooooo familiar)
But we all know Inaction & procrastination are just rooted in fear.
And fear simply comes down to a lack of clarity on what the heck it is that you should be doing!
Think about it…
If you’re not clear:
So... you don’t act. You THINK more, you PLAN more or you straight up GIVE UP and move on to the next possible idea. (and the cycle continues...)
Let me tell ya something, sista.
Clarity is POWER.
Clarity is CONFIDENCE.
Clarity is ACTION.
If you can just sift through the thoughts in your head and make sense of all your ideas…
Get a clear picture of what you want to create and put out into the world…
And then lay out a simple, yet detailed plan to execute it…
You’d feel inspired to take the action. I promise you.
So what have I done? The initial leg work for you DUH!
I’ve compiled a free checklist that lists out the first 10 things to get clear on when deciding to go for your “thing!” If you can check the boxes on the 10 “MUST KNOW’S When Going for Your Dream Biz, I guarantee you’ll feel way more calm, clear & confident taking action.
So many go-getter chicks came to me after speaking at the Carmen Ohling's All In Women’s Conference a couple months ago…
And the common theme between all of them was this terrifying fear of showing up & being seen.
They knew deep down in their bones they were meant for more
But when it came to actually taking the action to make it happen
These women were shying away from ALL of it…
Even though the work these women did was GAME-CHANGING… like POWERFUL TRANSFORMATIONAL stuff that people desperately NEEDED.
But the idea of putting themselves out there and risking failure & judgement, despite knowing their work matters, STOPPED THEM in their tracks.
Btw, these ladies were the BADASS boss types who the rest of us wish we were more like…the last ones you’d ever think were struggling with this…
But news flash ya’ll… WE ALLLLLL DO!!!
It’s just the successful ones CHOOSE to keep moving despite the fear…
So today I’m giving you my top tips for being seen that I gave these same chicks that came to me. <3
If you do nothing else, DO THESE 3:
Bottom line …. don’t let the fear control you…
That’s a recipe for REGRET
One life, baby girl. Get out there & do your thing. The ones who need you will love you… and then you know what I say to the rest of ‘em … 😉 starts with an “F”, ends with a “them.” 😜
Your goal this week: be seen. 🥳 Remember, you can't make waves without being seen!️
want to feel more confident taking action?
Get the clarity you need with this CHECKLIST 👉 10 MUST KNOW's When Going For Your Dream Biz!
Finally deciding to go for your dream, huh? Congrats chick! It's about dang time. So proud of you!
instead, grab a glass of vino...
...and use this handy dandy checklist to know exactly what to do to get started.
This 10 Must Know's When Going After Your Dream Business Checklist is a roadmap, or the first steps you should take, to help you set your biz up for long-term success.
Think of each check box as laying a little bit more of your biz foundation.
Once you have the stepping stones in place, you'll feel crazy confident to get out there & start growing your thing!
Action = feedback = clarity = confidence to show up, be seen & make your mark.
TIPS TO HELP YOU TAKE ACTION:
1. DO IT FOR JUST ONE. The fear that surrounds showing up & taking action is often knowing there's a possibility that no one will read, listen or buy. But if you focus on just the ONE… because let's be real, there is always ONE person who needs to hear what you have to say ... that will give you the confidence to keep on sharing.
2. CHUNK DOWN. Get SPECIFIC. Focus on SMALL daily steps. When you try to do too much, over think or over plan, you create overwhelm. This gets you out of that high vibration space where you attract the results you want. The idea is to create from INSPIRED PLACE.
3. ONLY TAKE INSPIRED ACTION. Everything carries an energetic vibration. When you’re not feeling confident in your purpose in that moment, you force creation and sharing, and transfer that low-vibe energy to your potential client. This will likely repel them & not create the outcome you want.
Bottom line: when you’re not feeling it (b/c there will be days, trust me), it’s more productive to rest and get back to your heart, and then pick up from there.
4. DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME: Success happens on the journey, not when you reach some specific destination. Being open to receiving during the process and listening to the feedback from your clients/the market provides the clarity you need to pivot your biz/program/strategy as necessary. Don't forget: where you are supposed to end up or who you are supposed to become is often packaged very differently than you originally envisioned.
5. SIMPLIFY AND FOCUS on only the actions that maximize your results (80% of results come from 20% of you action…get more by doing less, that's how I roll). This strategy helps guard your energy (& and your sanity) so you can keep showing up fully for your peeps.
6. DO THE MINDSET WORK to move past the fear and insecurities around showing up and being seen. Action will be lacking with a limited mentality. You can’t possibly produce the results you want if you don’t think you are good enough or worthy of them.
I promise, once you decide on sharing your gift, God/the Universe will conspire to support you.
AND I WILL TOO, CHICK! Comment if you ever need a personal cheerleader 😘
This is one of the TOP limiting beliefs that keep gals from going after that crazy big dream.
Yet, it’s usually just rooted in not being SUPER CLEAR on YOUR SUPERPOWER (2nd step in my Confidence Blueprint).
Because clarity on your calling will help give you the confidence to own that gift & finally go after it.
At this point, fear doesn't have any place to hang around (bubyyyyeee!) because you're so crazy clear on your mission to change lives that you don't have time to focus on the "what if's!"
So FIRST: let's pinpoint your superpower...