People think they’re either confident or they’re not.

But really, that’s a bunch of horse 💩.

Everyone is innately confident; some just haven’t nurtured that part of themselves yet.

Or maybe they’ve tried to, but haven’t had the right tools or knowledge to do so.

The reality is, confidence is already inside of you.

But bringing it to life means letting go of the limiting beliefs and the shame around your imperfections…

and starting to believe that you have your own unique superpower that literally has the power to change freaking lives, human hearts that specifically need what only you can offer.

It’s about stepping into your courage and being vulnerable, and taking the scary as shit action to SHARE and BE SEEN.

Because showing up in the world and sharing your authentic truth is the SECRET SAUCE to bringing your confidence to the surface.

And guess what happens when you start to step into your power …

You give others PERMISSION to step into theirs  … imperfections and all.

And isn’t that what it’s all about?

As you take poop your pants 💩 scary action, you attract a tribe that believes in poop your pants 💩 scary action too. And together you can poop your pants 💩 as you leap together (that’s a little much… I know 😂😳), nurturing, supporting, cheering each other on to a higher level of not only confidence, but of being.

BUTTTT, ya gotta start girl. So here is my Confidence Blueprint I shared at the All In Women’s Conference last month to help you do just that. Scroll for full on explanations of each crucial step.

Once you start to do the work to show up as your true self, God/the Universe will conspire to support your growth & your most confident life.

Xoxo

Finalizing my session for tomorrow on Authentic Confidence...

The part I CAN’T FREAKING WAIT to teach … how the brain determines how we show up in the world and thus what we create/attract in our life (results, opportunities, people).

Confidence IS a MINDSET.


If you’re feeling less than confident, you’re operating on old unconscious systems shaped by childhood, trauma, pain, experiences, that reinforce the idea that you’re not good enough (bananas 🍌).


THE BASICS:
Thoughts ➡️ emotions ➡️ behaviors ➡️ results.
(A thought creates a feeling in the body that directs the action you take, producing a result)


EXAMPLE:
THOUGHT: “I’m not worthy enough/pretty enough/smart enough” ➡️ EMOTION: Fear/Doubt (low frequency/survival mode) ➡️ BEHAVIOR: Procrastination (scared to show up) ➡️ RESULTS: SHIT!

Emotions have energy attached to them. And you attract what you are. When you reprogram your subconscious mind with thoughts that serve your future self (“I am worthy of success & abundance”), you create higher energy emotions that are a magnet for what you want. (Swipe ➡️ emotion scale & their corresponding energies)

So, HOW DO YOU REPROGRAM YOUR BRAIN!? Start showing up as your Future Self (literally).

Each new thought/feeling/choice that’s in alignment with your future self primes the brain to install the neurological hardware to actually think, feel and act like the kickass chick you want to be. As you practice the new ways of thinking & being, you strengthen the new program, so eventually making choices that are in alignment with your future become automatic at the unconscious level. The old toxic belief system will be overrun by the new programming that reflects your future self, and one day, you'll just wake up as Her.

This is how you create new thoughts & habits that produce wanted results WITHOUT STRUGGLE.

I’m walking through how to do this step-by-step TOMORROW at the ALL IN VIRTURAL CAMP. Also talking to ways the brain tries to keep you safe (#COMPARISON, #PERFECTIONISM, #PROCRASTINATION, #OVERTHINKING) & how to overcome, so you can continue showing up as your most confident, authentic self.

Still time to sign-up. It’s FREE! https://carmenohling.com/allincampevent/

See you there xoxo

​Burnout looks & feels a lot like depression …

What’s really going on at the most basic level … your automatic nervous system is out of whack. Without getting too nerdy (I love this 💩), the ANS is made up of 2 parts: Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) responsible for the “flight or fight” response & Parasympathetic Nervous System (PNS) known to help you chill out, relax & feel balanced again.

When your body has been under prolonged stress (whether from work, overtraining, bad diet, toxins like alcohol/caffeine, disease/sickness, etc.), your body learns to "survive" on "flight or fight." If the SNS is burdened for too long, the body will get your attention with physical symptoms – often the body’s last messengers after all the mental & emotional signs have been ignored.

**I don’t know about ya’ll, but there were many whispers to “slow the F down” long before the debilitating physical pain finally made my ass completely sit down!**

Featured above are common signs your SNS is running the show. 🚫

SYMPTOMS I SUFFERED FROM THE MOST:
😴 INSOMNIA: When cortisol (your stress hormone) is balanced, it spikes in the a.m. giving you energy for the day & subsides at night for restful, restorative sleep. My cortisol spiked at 2 am every night, leaving me wide-eyed sometimes until 6 am.

🍟 WEIGHT GAIN: Cortisol’s job is to help you survive, so when it’s pumped out in reaction to a stressor, it promotes fat storage, breaks down muscle & fuels sugar/salt cravings. I gained 12 pounds … no lie.

🤔FORGETFULLNESS & BRAIN FOG: When cortisol surges (to help you battle the stressor), it causes memory lapses & serious concentration issues. I accidently put my phone away w/ bath supplies, coffee in the freezer and sometimes couldn’t remember things like my address… (biggest fear here: dementia at 34?)

😰HORMONAL ISSUES: If cortisol is out of whack, sex hormones are too. Low progesterone (a sex hormone affected) leads to moodiness, hot flashes & night sweats, which I had errrry day. (biggest fear here: menopause at 34?)

If you’re struggling with these, you're not alone ♥️ But I'd suggest getting a full hormonal workup to paint a better picture of what your body is fighting 😘 xoxo